Okay so I’m sure you’ve all heard of the quiet place project. Well if not I am going to tell you because it has stopped me from doing serious damage more than once.
This gem right here is where you can literally create a 100% anonymous username and just absolutely spill your guts. Then people can read it and give you advice, and it honestly is so helpful. Because the other people on it are in the same situations as you, and they understand. You can comment and give advice on other peoples posts too, and it’s just really great.
This little beauty is similar to the comfort spot. Except instead of posting your thoughts, you type them into the box and then when you press enter they disappear and turn into stars against the blue sky. There is a whole bunch of different languages to choose from at the start, so if English is not your first language then you can probably find it here. There is the most comforting music that plays in the background as well, which is so great.
Which is so good for panic related things because it silences all of your other tabs and when you make it full screen it talks to you very calmly and then literally forces you stop for just 30 seconds and do nothing and just breathe.
Okay, so this is my actual favourite, it’s called the dawn room
The dawn room is so great for stopping you from self harming. It begins by telling you that its going to be alright, then it asks you to write something about someone you love. After that messages from other people, just like you, appear on the screen, one after the other, and the background slowly become brighter and happier. This page has genuinely stopped me from hurting myself more times than I can count. I’m not suggesting that it will work for everyone, but it is an absolute gem.
This page runs for about 5 minutes, and it is basically a typing simulator that tries to convince you that everything is going to be alright. It is very calming, and good for lonely times.
I can honestly say that this website has done me so so much good. I appreciate it with every bit of my being.
i dont really like country but i do love those country songs where the women murder their abusers
Goodbye Earl by the Dixie Chicks fuck yea
isn’t that like the only one bc if there is more i need to hear them
i haven’t listened to country since i was a kid but this one’s for the girls by martina mcbride is iconic and i get it stuck in my head sometimes
Gunpowder and Lead by Miranda Lambert. She shoots her abuser with a shotgun 💕
“Blown Away” by Carrie Underwood is about a woman letting her abusive, alcoholic dad die in a tornado.
Carrie Underwood is the queen of this genre: Some other great ones:
Church Bells – Carrie Underwood: A woman poisons her abusive husband and gets away with it after being beaten.
Two Black Cadillacs
– Carrie Underwood: A woman meets the other woman her husband was cheating on and they team up to murder him, then attend the funeral with no remorse.
The Thunder Rolls (Extended version) – Garth Brooks: Hard to find the extended cut, but in the full version the woman grabs a pistol and goes off to shoot her cheating husband.
The Night the Lights Went Out in Georgia – Reba McEntire: A man leaves town for a bit only to discover his best friend cheated on him with his wife. The friend is then shot by the man’s little sister and he is tried and sent to jail for it.
And no murder in these ones, but still contain women being amazing:
Girl in a Country Song – Maddie and Tae: A song that name-drops or references every single country song that uses derogatory language about women, then chews them out for it. The “your country is music is problematic“ song basically.
Shut Up and Fish – Maddie and Tae: A girl goes on a fishing song with a guy who will not stop talking and trying to hit on her, so she dumps him in the lake.
Before He Cheats – Carrie Underwood: A woman totally trashes her boyfriend’s car after he cheats on her to teach him a lesson.
Dirty Laundry –
Carrie Underwood: A woman figures out her husband is cheating by the stains on his clothes, then proceeds to tell all the neighbors and hang the shirt out front in case he dares to show back up again.
“Independence Day” by Martina McBride: the mom burns down the house to escape her abusive husband.
And Miranda Lambert has a lot of “fuck you/this” sounding songs about revenge and cheating: – “Kerosene”: it’s heavily implied by the lyrics and video that she’s burning down her ex’s house for cheating. – “Mama’s Broken Heart”: is more about her mom trying to shame her for falling apart after a break-up, and the video is a wild bird-flipping romp around the house making herself up to look “crazy” and “hysterical” to spite her.
Adding to this: “Something bad” A duet by Miranda Lambert and Carrie Underwood where two girls run off to have a night on the town- presumably after the one ran away from her own wedding and took her entire life’s savings with her.
Back to the original murder theme, I highly recommend “Looking Back Now” (originally titled “Whiskey and a Gun”) by Maggie Rose. Woman shoots her cheating boyfriend/husband, goes to jail, ends up shooting the prison guard who rapes her. (Okay, so she dies by lethal injection at the end, but still, awesome song.)
Maggie McCall by Sandi Thom… O.o
Adele covered “If It Hadn’t Been For Love” which was about killing a girlfriend and switched the pronouns to be about killing a male ex. *eg*
I’m usually against pronoun switching in covers, but this is my exception, I think.
“Country Song” by Seanan McGuire fits in here too–if you add in the part where it’s a retelling of the movie Slither.
Slightly off to one side of the main theme, but: Dar Williams’s “Flinty Kind of Woman” is about the women of a small New England town who band together to hunt down (and, it is implied, kill) a child molester.
Reba’s version of The Night The Lights Went Out In Georgia is a cover. The original was performed by Vicki Lawrence in 1973.
Also, the full plot of the story has the little sister killing the best friend and the cheating wife. The brother is arrested because he had come to the best friend’s house to threaten the friend, but upon finding the body panicked and signaled a passing state police patrol car by firing off a shotgun.
It is implied that the brother found his friend’s body while the sister was disposing of the wife’s corpse.
The wife’s body was never found, so the police assumed she had run away, and the brother was wrongfully convicted of his friend’s murder and quickly executed via hanging before the sister could confess. She has no remorse for the double homicide, but the song is an indictment of the corrupt, lazy, sloppy Southern judicial system and how the state executed the wrong person.
The Reba cover sounds better, in my opinion, but the recording quality of the original isn’t very good, so it’s hard to say.
Anyway, just tacking on my 2¢ that nobody asked for.
Epilogue: the extended version of The Thunder Rolls is fucking amazing and chilling and if you find it you should keep it forever. But also send it to me because I’ve been looking for it for years. I think I only heard it once, during the live Madison Square Garden concert that I blasted through every speaker in the house when I was in high school even though I was only able to get the sound and not the video because we didn’t have that channel on our cable package.
there is an astronomical difference between ‘because of my personality disorder, i am more sensitive to small things (such as people ignoring messages) that a neurotypical person would not be sensitive to, and i would like my friends to be mindful of this when interacting with me’ and ‘because of my personality disorder, i should have a free pass to stalk, manipulate, and abuse my friends, and any criticism of my behaviour or abandonment on the part of my friends is inherently ableist’
As a child, when you reached out to connect emotionally
(as all children naturally do), the lack of response sent you an
unspoken message, loud and clear: Don’t reach out. So now deep down,
when you need help or connection, you are stopped from making
connections by a block inside of you. Somehow, it just feels needy or
wrong to ask for help or even want to connect.